One of my favorite quotes, I saw first at the dance studio in high school. The poster said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle”, a quote from Plato. That year my focus was very inward. It was my final year at high school. I was the new kid, shy, and scared. I had no idea at that time what trauma truly felt like. I saw what was going on in my life and let the situations become big in my mind. This quote was a much-needed slap in the face. My selfish view was ignoring the truth of the people around me. See the people I bump shoulders with on a regular basis, have their own battles. You included. Battles I could never fully understand. For this, we can’t ignore the importance of simply being kind.
Trauma affects us all.
Of course, in different ways but we all have been through difficult times. Here are five points I hope will encourage you. No matter what scale you believe your experience sits on, it hurts. You might even be walking with someone through trauma as well, that hurts too.
- The experience may have affected you, but it doesn’t have to change you.
It would be naïve of me to write that trauma won’t affect you in some capacity. Sometimes it’s the thing in life that may affect you the most. Your actions and reactions might source back to your experience. It’s now up to you for how much control you will give your past experience.
- Who you are, isn’t a reflection of someone else’s actions.
Their actions or re-actions are out of your control. Stop carrying around a heavy weight that isn’t yours to begin with. They may have hurt or have been hurt by you. Your next steps forward won’t be allowing this to become your identity.
Psalm 55:22 Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken
- The trauma cannot trap you.
It feels like a war to just get out of bed. It may feel like a fight trying to learn to take care of yourself again. Then to open up and let people in? You may feel like your isolated in a cage with no way out. Keep going.
Galatians 5:1 Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you
- Gather support and let them help. You are never alone.
Reaching out requires a lot of bravery. You must be honest with yourself and then someone else. It’s so worth it. Drop the fear and let someone care. Let go of the pride and gather a … tribe. In all seriousness You deserve to be cared for. Deuteronomy 31:8 “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
I found it most helpful talking with people who have been in similar circumstances. It’s a relief to feel heard but also understood.
- It gets better.
I know you may hate this point. Trust me, I scoffed at it too.
The pain you are feeling, is nothing compared to the joy that is coming. It may seem impossible to believe, so until you can say it with a smile, hold onto hope. Set your focus onward.
Hebrews 6:19 We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, to hold us firm and secure.
If you are searching for answers to stop the hurt and you did not find them here, don’t stop searching. Reach out with whatever strength you have left. Your life as broken as it may seem, is so so precious. It’s needed, You are needed.
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